HEALTH AND SPIRITUAL REASONS SEX SHOULD WAIT TILL MARRIAGE: PART 2A

Good day and welcome to another wonderful read, before we go further on this part, kindly ensure you read part one of these series. We will be discussing in part today those health reasons sex should wait till marriage.

Health Reasons Sex Should Wait Till Marriage

 Let's cast our minds back to how the definition of health talked about the physical, social, and mental aspects of man. In this part, I will be limiting the reasons to the physical (body) aspects. Please note the following points first.

• The body (physical aspects of you) is like a case or container or should we say a carton in which you are kept (by God) till the day of redemption. It’s like a gift to you.
  
• Engaging in sex with your body without the confines of marriage exposes you to many harms and dangers. Engaging in sex too early on the other hand is a very significant road map to continuity of pre-marital sexual engagements (If you start early, you are likely going to continue till you are married)

  

• Pre-marital sex is one thing (among others) of which marriage was created to prevent from the beginning. It is a valid point that outside marriage, your partner has no obligation to be faithful towards you and so there’s a limit to which you can question the use of his or her body, simply put, there is no oath binding you, there’s no covenant and there’s no law guiding that relationship. Where there is no law, they say there is no sin, any abnormality may be seen as normal. 

This makes it more dangerous because a person whose partner has another partner(s) is a candidate of multiple sexual partnering already. He or she sleeping with you and with any other person(s) implies that you have slept with that (or those) third party (ies). Multiple sexual partners are seen in this context when it comes to health and illness.

• It can be proven that most of the world’s troubles were birthed from sexual intercourse, having sex in the wrong way then makes things worse, pre-marital sex on one hand and extra-marital sex on the other.

 

Some of the dangers of premarital sex in the physical aspect of man is as follows:

1. Sexually transmitted diseases for example gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV/AIDS, genital warts, human papilloma virus of cervical cancer, herpes and others. Agents of these diseases are transmitted through the mucous membrane and body fluids. The act of sex itself is all about body fluids mixture. I once had a patient with genital warts who was unmarried, he told me categorically how he had multiple sexual partners and that the last woman he slept with told him she has an infection. He also said he has spent a fortune in the treatment of the condition but it kept recurring. I then asked him why he didn't get married, he said it was because of lack of money but then we analysed things and discovered that what he had spent in the hands of doctors and lab investigations is enough to organize a small parlor wedding so he can stay committed to a partner.

2. Most times the woman is at the receiving end (as regard sexually transmitted infections) because these diseases may not just stop at affecting the external genitalia, it could progress to affect the internal genitalia including the uterus (womb) and the fallopian tubes causing pelvic inflammatory diseases and in the end could lead to infertility if not treated appropriately.

4. Pre-marital sex poses a risk of having sex early which can predispose you to cervical cancer. Early sexual debut is a risk factor for cervical cancer so is having a multiple sexual partners and (or) one’s partner having more than one partner. I have seen a woman of 28yrs with this disease and I have seen a woman of About 60 yrs of age likewise. It can catch up at any age even though it is preventable.

5. Unwanted pregnancy. Of course, when you have unprotected sex, the sperm meets the ovum and a zygote is form. Pregnancy is a whole lot of work, having it when not ready is not pleasant. 

6. Teenage pregnancy is one of the leading causes of maternal death in Nigeria. Pre-marital sex could lead to one getting pregnant as a teenager which is of very great risk and can be followed by all sorts of complications like vesico vaginal fistula, cephalopelvic disproportion, obstructed labor and others even as mentioned above.

7. Sex before marriage of course can lead to thoughts and acts of abortion as a result of unwanted and unintended pregnancy. Unsafe abortion can lead to death, pelvic inflammatory diseases and depending on how and where it is done, if the lining of the womb is scraped to remove the products of conception, it can lead to infertility in the future.

 There is even a particular method that can lead to habitual abortion in the future. When women come to us be evaluated for infertility, we always ask about any pregnancy in the past and we will ask for all the information as regard its termination. In the course of doing this, I have seen so much guilt in the eyes of women, and some of them will even tell you they regretted terminating those pregnancies. Their main reasons have been that they weren’t ready then. 

In conclusion, I thought of exposing you to all these so you can sit down and count the cost of pre-marital sex before engaging in it. The truth is that, some of the above things rarely occur in marriage yet the fact remains that the risks are higher outside the confines of marriage. Look at the quote in this picture, what do you think?

Wao, I better stop here for now. It's been an interesting moments writing this. I tell you that more is yet to come. Watch out for the next post (part 2B) on the social and mental reasons sex should wait till marriage. I await more comments. God bless you!

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